Cruising For A Bruising

Last Thursday, I went to a public pool for a swim. I've been trying to pick my game up again for my physical fitness now that I am carrying an excess of 8 kilos since I came back to Singapore 2 half years ago. Nothing exciting to report during my 20 laps but the issue started when I walked into the changeroom.

 

The changeroom had long benches with hooks extending along the top of each bench for you to hang your clothes from. It was quite crowded, about 4-5 people in there and as I walked past a few to find my position, I noticed a middle aged guy standing there staring at everyone coming through the door. He was totally nude with his genitalia in full view of everyone walking pass there. That itself would have been fine if not for the fact that he was side glancing at people who were showering and he wasn't actually in the midst of taking his clothes off or putting any on!

 

He was cruising. Blatantly. In a cocksure manner. Disgusting.

 

Now if this was a sex on premise area, it would have been ok (not that I am an advocate for casual sex or anything), but this was a public pool with the possiblity of children coming in for a shower or clothes change. How would that look?

 

Feeling damn uncomfortable, I of course closed the door to my shower stall. I just went about my showering as per normal and decided for my modesty, I would put my boxers on before I came out of the cubicle. As I opened the door, THERE HE WAS...staring me up and down, with even a tinge of disappointment that I had my boxers on...

 

That was when I felt really uncomfortable and I even got a tad angry. I slammed my toiletries bag on the bench, grabbed my tshirt and pulled it over my head while muttering "can't even fucking shower here in peace!" and stamped angrily out of the change room. The whole change room went quiet.

 

As I was walking towards the train station after leaving the swiming pool, I suddenly felt a sense of compassion for the cruiser. True, what he did was not quite appropriate. But being the middle aged person he is, he probably never got a chance to come out, or have a community of like minded individuals supporting him and letting him know the feeling he has for someone of his gender is not wrong or disgusting. He probably had to marry someone he never liked just to have kids with her.To carry on the family lineage. As his lust for sexual pleasure with other men continues to consume him he may end up one day being bashed while cruising the wrong crowd or hauled to court for sexual misconduct. End up in jail and ruin his life.

 

All because he never got the chance to be who he really is.

 

That person could have been me. I'm so glad its not.

 

(confession:this post took me 15 minutes to type)